Separation is never easy for any couple but it is often the children who suffer the most because they are witness to the two people who they look up to the most at loggerheads and arguing over who gets to see them and when. Communication is often the key element following separation and making arrangements for the children. It is not easy going from being a family to then having to arrange for the children to spend time with both of you but what has happened between you as parents should not impact the time the children get to spend with you.
One of the hardest things for parents following separation is continuing the conversation about what their children need in order to keep channels of communication open, and to continue to parent as part of an effective working relationship. For many couples, the hurt and breakdown of trust associated with the end of their personal relationship is a significant barrier that makes it difficult to do this. While this can become less hard as time passes, it is also easy to become complacent in the patterns that have been built up following separation.